"How could this happen to us?" Things seem like they were ok, not bad enough to cheat. You wonder what did I do, being hurt and feeling shame as if it was my fault? Where do I go from here? What will happen to my kids? Is this just a phase, or will this be a permanent change in my life? How long was your spouse thinking about cheating on you before they did? Was this the first time? Should I fight for my marriage or should I give up, and how can my spouse want or love someone else other than me? Did they ever love me in the first place? These are answer's every spouse needs that has been cheated on, and they are in Life After Adultery.