What is Violent Communication? If "violent" means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate—judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger pointing, discriminating, speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves, name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or judging who's "good/bad" or what's "right/wrong" with people—could indeed be called "violent." What is Nonviolent Communication? It's the integration of consciousness, language, communication, and means of influence and serves our desire to live with more choice, meaning, and connection, connect empathically with ourselves and others, and to share resources for the benefit of everyone.